To be the man, I have to be

This isn’t a recent song, but it’s a good one. I used to listen to it as a teenager, and thought it was about a romantic relationship, until I became pregnant with my daughter. When I was pregnant, I was hyper focused on everything baby related, and this song popped up on my iPod while I was on a walk one night. This song is about a man who just learns his lady is pregnant with his child, and his fears and hopes for the little life they have created together. It’s a very emotional time realizing you are going to become a parent, and this song is him mentally processing through those feelings of having a child.

He starts off the song by saying “Well I just heard the news today, it seems my life is going to change, I close my eyes, begin to pray, than tears of joy stream down my face” The writer has just found out his lady is expecting, he is a bit worried so he prays, then realizes how excited he is, and cries tears of happiness. It’s a mix of feelings, and emotions, but he seems like he is excited for the change that is about to happen. The chorus follows with “With arms wide open, under the sunlight, welcome to this place I’ll show you everything, with arms wide open, with arms wide open.” This chorus represents happiness, a genuine welcoming of his baby into this world. He is ready to welcome his baby with open arms, show them what this life is all about, he seems like he is very invested in the baby.

Baby’s don’t come with manuals, which is a bit terrifying, I kind of wish they did. “Well I don’t know if I’m ready, to be the man I have to be, I’ll take a breath, I’ll take her by my side, we stand in awe, we’ve created life.” This line explains best that you just have to take a deep breathe, and try your best to be a good parent. There are no words to describe the moment you see your little baby for the first time, they are so small, and fragile, and they depend on you to survive. You and your partner are on this journey together, you have created a little life. The chorus repeats, except adding “Now everything has changed, I’ll show you love, I’ll show you everything.” The fact that he worries about being a good dad, means that he already is one. His world has changed, and can’t wait to share the rest of his life with his baby, he wants to give them unconditional love, and guidance. That’s really the best any of us can do, make sure our kids are loved beyond measure, and have the tools to become good people.

If you ask any parent what their main wish for their child is, I bet it will be something along the lines of “To not make the same mistakes I did, or, to not end up like me, but become something much better.” He states that towards the ending of the song, he says “If I had just one wish, only one demand, I hope he’s not like me, I hope he understands, that he can take this life, and hold it by the hand, and he can greet the world, with arms wide open.” I took this stanza as him saying that he hopes his son with be gentle, and loving. Approach the world with arms open, don’t be closed off. The world isn’t trying to work against you, it can be beneficial to see the good in everything, and take life on with a smile. Some people think negatively, in turn living negatively. Positive mind, and a positive attitude, can lead to a positive life. This is also the only line where he makes a reference to the baby’s gender, he is having a son. That could be another reason he is projecting so many of his wishes, is so his son can learn from his mistakes. Maybe he didn’t have a father to love, and guide him through life, and he wishes to do better for his son.

There are going to be so many battles his son with face in life, but he will be there for him every step of the way. It’s so nice to hear from the mans prospective about having a child, more often than not, it’s the woman speaking her mind about the life growing inside of her. Men also have fears, and it’s awesome to hear that side of the story. Take a deep breath, and enjoy the most amazing journey of your life, welcome him with arms wide open.

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Only miss the sun when it starts to snow

Have you ever had a cold, and couldn’t breathe out of your nose? In that instant you realize you took advantage of the fact that you could breathe before your cold, and now would do anything to go back in time, and you wouldn’t take breathing for granted? That is a great example of what this artist is writing about, not the cold thing, but about taking things for granted you didn’t realize meant so much to you.

The song starts off with “Well you only need the light when it’s burning low, only miss the sun when it starts to snow, only know you love her when you let her go.” All of these lines have the same meaning of taking things for granted, and realizing it when you don’t have them anymore. When the light is going out, is when you realize you need the light, when it’s snowing is when you realize miss the bright, and sunny summer days, and you only realize you love her when it’s to late. We tend to take advantage of things when we have them, or be too blind to see what we have in front of us while it’s there. The second stanza is similar to the first, it gives us more examples of not realizing what you have when you have it. “Only know you’ve been high when you’re feeling low, only hate the road when you’re missing home, only know you love her when you let her go, and you let her go.” He ends this stanza a bit differently than the first, he ends with “and you let her go.” This to me signifies that he is taking the blame, he understands now that he made a mistake in letting her go. Now that she is gone he realizes that he did in fact love her.

The next two stanzas he goes into a bit of self-reflection. “Staring at the bottom of your glass, hoping one day you’ll make a dream last, but dreams come slow and they go so fast. You see her when you close your eyes, maybe one day you’ll understand why, everything you touch surely dies.” He now is looking inward, and realizing that this is a pattern in his life. He is trying to make sense of why this keeps happening, trying to understand where he is going wrong. The self-reflection is good, maybe he will learn to change his ways in the future, and realize what he has, when he has it. Now he’s stuck with her memories, and he is just trying to make sense of it all, hopefully to keep it from happening again. Admitting the problem is the first step in change, he’s on a good path!

The writer then goes on to repeat the chorus again, followed by “Staring at the ceiling in the dark, same old empty feeling in your heart, ’cause love comes slow and it goes so fast. Well you see her when you fall asleep never to touch and never to keep, because you loved her too much and you dived to deep.” He seems lonely, and regretful of his choices. He can’t get her back, and that he knows, but it still haunts him. His dreams are a different from his reality, I believe he wishes to have her back, but it’s not going to happen.

He ends the song by repeating the chorus three times before ending the song, further drilling in the life lesson of you don’t know what you have until it’s gone. This is a pretty powerful song, the chorus speaks for itself. We don’t always realize what we have until it’s no longer there, and then when it’s to late we realize what we did have, leading to regret. This lesson doesn’t only apply to relationships, but of all aspects of life, just as the chorus states by all of the different examples. The overall lesson that I took away from this song is to not take anything for granted, open your eyes to what you have, when you have it. Thinking of my own life, there are things I take for granted daily, that I should cherish, and many things I wish I could get back. What are some things you have taken for granted when you had it, and later regretted it?

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Finding your way

dory

Yesterday I spend the afternoon with my 2 year old seeing finding dory in theaters, big bucket of popcorn and all. If you haven’t seen it, you should go! I was a bit nervous because we love finding nemo in this family, and I didn’t want finding dory to ruin that. Aside from all of the cute flashback from baby dory,to grown dory, the message of the movie was what got me thinking. Disney is awesome at the hidden messages, so here is my take on finding dory’s message to the audience.

Dory is a fish who has short term memory loss. She has a moment where she has a flashback of her as a baby, and she’s with her mom and dad, and thats when the hunt for dory’s parents begins. I believe Disney gave dory short term memory loss to signify special needs. The same way nemo has one fin that’s smaller than the other,making swimming a bit more difficult. These differences don’t make their life impossible, but does make it more challenging. This gives kids the message to despite life’s struggles, you can achieve whatever you set your mind to. Things in life don’t come easy, and you have to work hard achieve your goals. Everyone has their own struggles, whether you can see them, like nemo’s tiny fin, or not, like dory’s short term memory.

Throughout the movie dory has some setbacks in the quest to find her parents. She loses her direction many times, but finds her way, either by herself or with the help friends. She gets caught by a the marine institute boat, which ends up seeming like a setback, but leads her closer to her parents. She hurts others by focusing on herself and not working with others. Some things may seem like a setback at the time, but end up being a blessing in disguise. If you give up before you work through the hard times, you won’t push through to achieve your goals. Dory pushes through her setbacks and ends up reuniting with her parents.

Aside from the main moral of the story, I also took another lesson from the movie. Dory lived in the open ocean exhibit in the aquarium as a baby, and returns there by accident whens she got caught by the boat. It’s a rescue aquarium for animals who can’t survive in the ocean until the are rehabilitated, and once they are healed are let back into the ocean, if they can’t be fixed they are sent up to an aquarium in Cleveland Ohio. At the ending of the movie some fish are being transported by truck to Cleveland, and marlin and nemo are trapped inside. Some animals make a plan to get them out of the truck, and long story short an octopus drives the truck into the ocean to free the fish. Animals should’t be trapped in cages for their entire life, the need to be free and live in their natural environment. I believe this is another hidden message in finding dory. Aquariums are taking animals from their natural habitat, and they aren’t meant to live in a glass tank, being poked at by little kids.

Finding dory did a fantastic job with the sequel to finding nemo. It taught my daughter some very valuable lessons, that I hope she took from the movie. She can do whatever she sets her mind to, no matter the obstacles. This is a huge lesson that I try to install in her, and Disney is doing great backing up that lesson. We aren’t a huge TV family, but I fully support Disney and the values they are teaching to todays youth.

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Love is Love

same love

SAME LOVE – MACKLEMORE (music video)

SAME LOVE lyrics

After hearing about the Orlando shootings this past weekend at the nightclub, this song instantly popped into my head. There is so much hate, and discrimination in our world today, and this song hits these social issues head on. My heart is heavy for those who have innocently lost their lives due to hate crimes, and my hope is that this song can open the eyes of the world, love is love and why thats so hard to accept, I’ll never know.

This songs main theme is stereotypes, how even as children we are plagued with them, being homosexual is one of them. The singer of the song thought he was gay as a child because he could draw, and kept his room clean. Why would a child be scared to be gay? It’s because nowadays they are hated on for their sexual preference. This song talks about how religion tells them that they can be cured from being gay, it’s still not socially acceptable, yet the statement “god loves all his children” is forgotten. This speaks to me, my best guy friend got shunned from his family, and his church for being gay. America says we accept everyone, yet when they have different beliefs than ours we get defensive, and claim their “truth” is wrong because it doesn’t match ours. Who are we to decide what’s right and whats wrong?

Words like “gay” and “faggot” get dropped without people even realizing what they are saying, in day to day conversation, or in a song. This song is bringing attention to that. The line “man thats gay, gets dropped the daily” It’s true, we say derogatory words without even thinking twice. This song keeps coming back to hate, and how prominent it is today. He’s right, people cannot change who they are and nor should they want to. That’s so important which is why i believe he used “and I can’t change, even if I tried, even if I wanted to” in the chorus. Like he says we can’t change who they are, even if they break the “norm”, I want to live in a world where my children won’t think being gay is different, they just love who they love.

The line that hit me the hardest in this song was “a world so hateful some would rather die than be who they are.” We live in a world where people take their own lives because they hate themselves. I couldn’t imagine hating myself so much, and having nowhere to turn because you are “different” than what society says is correct. We need to welcome others differences with open arms, and that’s the whole point of this song.

The writer of this song did an AMAZING job speaking up about the social issue of homophobia in this country, and the rest of the world. My hope is that this song can open the eyes of those who’s hearts are filled with hatred for those who are different than they are. My heart breaks for those who feel that they are alone, and hated. If you are one of those people, listen to this song and know that there are others out there who are like you, and those of us who aren’t but support you one hundred percent. In light of the shootings against the gay community this past weekend, my heart goes out to you. I wish I could wrap my arms around you, and let you know that you aren’t alone. For those whose lives were innocently taken due to the hatred, may you rest in peace.

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“7 years” by Lukas Graham

The first time I heard this song I was in my spin class doing resistance training, pedaling slow, but strong. I was trying to take my mind off of the pain, so I focused on the lyrics. The song starts off saying “once I was 7 years old my mama told me go make yourself some friends or you’ll be lonely” This is the only time his mama is mentioned in the entire song. I wonder if his mom passed away shortly after, and that’s the reason she is only mentioned once. His father is mentioned a few times throughout the song, which makes me believe that he played a bigger role in his life, physically or emotionally. At age 11 he thought he was invincible, smoking and drinking, his life didn’t seem to be heading in a positive direction, so his dad told him he needed to get a wife or he would end up lonely. Both of his parents gave him the same piece of advice, don’t end up alone. Maybe there is something to their advice? You would assume his parents are not divorced, because he doesn’t mention anything about them being separated, but my thought is they are either divorced, or his mother passed away, leaving his father to raise him.

After his spurt of partying he started to focus on his goals, and look towards the future. He says ” I always had that dream like my daddy before me, so I started writing songs, I started writing stories” We know that he ended up in the music industry, but we don’t know what his father did for a living. This verse suggests his dad was also a musician, and that they both had similar dreams they were chasing. That could possibly be the reason he talks about his dad more in the song, because he can relate to him. A dads dream is to have their son follow in their footsteps. He seems to be very self motivated, not by money or fame, but because he truly loves music. The line that speaks to me the most out of this part of the song is  “I only see my dreams, I don’t believe in failure, because I know the smallest voices they can make it major” This is how he got away from the party scene, and became a known musician, he is driven to succeed. Positive thinking leads to a positive life. When he was 20 he got discovered as a musician. At this time in his life he was putting everything he had into his songs, and it finally paid off. Hard work lead him to success, though he didn’t give much detail about how he made it in the music industry.

He talks about wanting to have kids, and how it’s important to have a good relationship with them. He projects about his wife giving him babies he can tell his story to. I don’t think he has kids at this time because he says “or will i have a lot of children who can warm me” so I assume that he doesn’t have kids yet. But he thinks about being a dad, and what it means to him. His dad may have been a great example to him, and he can’t wait to pass that on. I think it means a lot to him to have kids, and that’s his next big step in life, since he accomplished his goals as a musician.

Lukas stops predicting his life at the early age of 60. I believe he does this because his dad passed away at 61, so he doesn’t know what else to look for beyond those years. He could fantasize about life after 60, but he stops there. He may not believe there is much to live for after that, besides watching your children grow. Hopefully he doesn’t think 60 is the end, there is much more life to be lived. He ends the song restating the very first verse ” once i was 7 years old, my mama told me, go make yourself some friends or you’ll” be lonely, once I was 7 years old” I think he ends it this way to say that no matter what happens you need to have people around you, who support you in every stage of life. You can’t go through your life alone, thats the most important lesson of all.